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Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

I have very little trouble dealing with divorcing couples, friends or otherwise.

Aug 15, 2016 01:00 PM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Paul,

The only time stuff becomes a nightmare is when we are tempted to take sides... If you can stay objective, you will be fine.  A

Aug 15, 2016 08:55 AM
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Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
Your Bay County Florida Realtor 850.774.6582

Nah, I don't think I've ever worked with a friend or relative in 11 years of selling

Aug 15, 2016 09:30 PM
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Susan Emo
Sotheby's International Realty Canada - Brokerage - Kingston, ON
Kingston and the 1000 Islands Area

It always seems to be a nightmare!  I just told a divorcing couple "I will not play monkey in the middle"!!

Aug 15, 2016 12:24 PM
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Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

I so agree with Ron and Alexandra Seigel . I've been objective and not taken sides in a divorce and all went well.

Aug 15, 2016 09:02 AM
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Caroline Gerardo
Sun West Mortgage Corporation - Newport Beach, CA
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Divorce attorney's goal is to make parties fight until the billable hours eat up all their savings. Selling the house has emotional charges that you will need to calm. Downsizing is what is needed but hard to do. If you have resources for splitting up personal property cheaply it will help this along. Neither party wants to pay for storage, pay for staging or repairs.  Although we think our furniture is worth what we paid, unless it is an antique it is best to donate it rather than store it. Get both parties to sign listing price, lowering price and any concessions they are willing to make as an add on to your contract, plus fair fighting rules. If handled well, the divorce attorneys may both refer you future clients.

Aug 15, 2016 08:47 AM
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Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Lend Smart Mortgage, Llc. - Carlsbad, CA
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We have experienced it both ways and it generally only gets worse when attorneys get involved.

Aug 16, 2016 06:20 AM
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Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

I refer them out.  Too much drama.

Aug 16, 2016 04:57 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

I have.  It was smooth sailing because it was an amicable divorce.

Aug 16, 2016 02:40 AM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Nightmare for sure.

Aug 16, 2016 01:37 AM
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Harry F. D'Elia III
RentVest - Phoenix, AZ
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There will always be a couple bumps before crossing the finish line.

Aug 16, 2016 12:13 AM
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carmen siman
Carmen Siman PA - Coral Gables, FL
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Hi Paul!

I have represented a friend going through a divorce and I have also been part of one.  It's  usually not a smooth sailing as many emotions are involved, as well as children, memories, and much more.  I can recommend to have much patience, understanding, lend a shoulder, listen and always have the best interest of your friend.  And if it truly is a friend, and there are children involved, also bring their best interest to the table.

A divorce is a traumatic situation for a family, and a move is another trauma.  So it's best to always handle it with lots of care.  Generally, a divorce is not a happy moment and how we handle it can help make a difference in  a painful situation.

If I can be of any more help, please feel free to contact me.  

Carmen

Aug 16, 2016 12:08 AM
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Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Switzerland is a nice place and a good strategy when it comes to working in real estate too.  

Aug 15, 2016 11:32 PM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Depends on the parties involved. Some are practical and some out for revenge without thought as to the consequences!

Aug 15, 2016 11:20 PM
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Brenda Mayette
Miranda Real Estate Group, Inc. - Glenville, NY
Getting results w/ knowledge & know-how!

Doing it right now...  So far, smooth sailing

Aug 15, 2016 11:05 PM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

I represented both friends going through the land of hell and high waters. It was okay as far as business and cooperation with mission accomplished. However, the price paid in the personal realms was costly for all (me too)

Aug 15, 2016 11:04 PM
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

no

Aug 15, 2016 11:01 PM
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Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

Lucky for me no.

Aug 15, 2016 10:30 PM
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Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

No personal experience, but have followed. Usually divorcing couples shy away from using a friend as one or the other normally has an objection. I've seen court-appointed agents to keep things "neutral". Usually not pretty.

Aug 15, 2016 10:23 PM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

These are normal transactions.

Aug 15, 2016 10:23 PM
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

Yes and the ex-wife tore us both apart. Despite remaining neutral you can rarely win

Aug 15, 2016 10:22 PM
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Jessie Cochran
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
Panama City Realty Group

Nope, have not

Aug 15, 2016 09:47 PM
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Jeff Pearl
RE/MAX Distinctive / LIC in VA - Lovettsville, VA
Full Service Full Time Realtor

Yes. The sales went ok for the most part.

Aug 15, 2016 09:44 PM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

Divorce - yes.  Friends - no.

Aug 15, 2016 09:13 PM
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Kathleen Luiten
Resort and Second-Home Specialist - Princeville, HI
Kauai Luxury Ocean Home Sales

Yes, more than once. We managed to make it smooth enough and avoid the nightmares.

Aug 15, 2016 05:40 PM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

Depends who hired you and who makes decisions. If it is your friends, it is always harder sale, even if they are not divorcing:) 

Aug 15, 2016 04:06 PM
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Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, Broker, Tacoma Washington - fortunately, no.

Aug 15, 2016 03:40 PM
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Donna Foerster
HomeSmart Realty Group - Parker, CO
Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant

I've never represented a friend in this scenario, but we have represented clients that were going through divorce. It was definitely sensitive.

We will have the opportunity to represent friends in a month or so. We met with them once to talk about getting the house ready. It was a little awkward, but otherwise ok. They were both agreeable.

Aug 15, 2016 01:51 PM
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Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

Thankfully I've only come close to this situation. It's not something I would want to deal with. 

Aug 15, 2016 01:18 PM
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Lisa Von Domek
Lisa Von Domek Team - Dallas, TX
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Oh yes Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, Broker, Tacoma Washington several times and they were not all "pretty"...  But they all appreciated that I stayed neutral and got them through the difficult time of splitting up their assets and helping them to move on.

Aug 15, 2016 01:06 PM
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Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

In one case. it was their last opportunity to drive each other crazy.  In another case, the couple was into conscious un-coupling before it was cool.

Aug 15, 2016 12:43 PM
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

I have had it both ways

Aug 15, 2016 12:27 PM
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Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

Yes, I have, and thankfully they both trusted me.  I met with them seperately and would not tolerate any ugliness on either side.

Aug 15, 2016 12:24 PM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

Not friends ... but I have had clients going through a divorce. It was war of the roses between them ... making it more challenging for me because they refused to be in the same room together. 

Aug 15, 2016 11:23 AM
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Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

I haven't had a friend going through that but I have helped clients - and it was a nightmare 

Aug 15, 2016 11:12 AM
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Sybil Campbell
Fernandina Beach, FL
Referral Agent Amelia Island Florida

I've never done that but when my ex and I sold our house, it was not smooth sailing.

Aug 15, 2016 10:52 AM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, EXP - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

I prefer to stay far away from this kind of situation; both personally and professionally.

Aug 15, 2016 10:46 AM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

A little of both but none a happy occasion.

Aug 15, 2016 09:51 AM
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Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Paul yes I've dealt with a number of divorce situations over the years.  It's not easy but it can be done with a lot of patience and staying centered and not taking sides. They'll want you to, trust me, they will. Just don't!

Aug 15, 2016 09:50 AM
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

No I have not had to do that, but being objective would be essential.

Aug 15, 2016 09:40 AM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

it wasn't a nightmare.... just handle it as business and put the friendships aside.... 

Aug 15, 2016 08:36 AM