Building relationships in today’s world has its own peculiarities. Modern dating culture differs from the standards that were common to many people a few decades ago. Today, changed mores play a huge role. Today’s women are no longer meek creatures, totally dependent on men. The perception of traditional dating etiquette has been greatly influenced by the equality of women and their independence in all things.
But whatever modern dating culture is, it has had no effect on men and women meeting. Dates are still arranged, communication begins, which leads to the birth of a relationship. But whether it will be possible to build them without stress and problems depends on the couple. Let’s look at some factors that will help build a relationship without stress.
Integrity
Emotional security of people who are in a relationship is the norm. If there is trust in the partner, it saves a lot of problems, worries that eventually lead to stress in the relationship. Lack of honesty towards each other often contributes to jealousy, destructive behavior.
If honesty is the norm in a couple, there is peace in the relationship. Partners find it because they know they can be themselves. If you can be sure that your loved one is not trying to deceive you, it minimizes the risk of emotional trauma.
Honesty towards each other is not only inherent in people who live together or build a relationship. Modern dating culture is also based on this concept. The everyday application of honesty is to tell your partner what you mean and to mean what you say.
If you say one thing and do another, for example, if you said you would be home for dinner and didn’t show up, it leads to mistrust, which can ultimately destroy even the happiest of unions. In the case, however, if you follow through, take what you say seriously, stability and prosperity arise between partners.
Respect for each other in modern dating culture
Respect your partner on a daily basis, not just in certain situations or when you are in company. Respect shows itself:
- in interaction;
- in how much each partner values each other’s opinion;
- how well you fight for “honesty” when expressing different beliefs, ideas, and viewpoints.
A respectful attitude is a set of conversations that include words of encouragement, appreciation, and gratitude. It is this kind of interaction, where everyone appreciates each other, that is a powerful strategy for fostering a sense of respect as a couple.
Sympathy
Showing empathy for one’s partner is one of the social aspects of the emotional state. The peculiar application of empathy in practice is in accordance with the famous saying “seek to understand first” by Stephen Covey, author of the book “7 Skills of Highly Effective People”.
Many people are used to judging and talking and forming their own opinions about another person without really knowing what kind of trials they have endured and what they will experience in the future. Perhaps the person you are communicating with has had the worst day of his life. Will that fact change your attitude toward him or her? Would your attitude be more lenient, which it might not have been if you hadn’t learned the reason for the other person’s behavior? Most likely, yes.
But this does not mean that you have to put up with and listen to hurtful comments, silently tolerate aggressive behavior. The key to healthy communication is to try to understand someone’s feelings or situation.
Openness
It must be present not only in modern dating culture, but also in relationships. A sense of connection arises between partners only if they are willing to open up to each other. Share your feelings and thoughts, discuss them in a calm manner, and thus build a stress-free relationship.
Self-assessment skills
A relationship with oneself is important to any person. Adequate self-esteem allows one to understand one’s values and ability to do this or that. The development of self-esteem is fundamental to creating a stress-free relationship.
If this is not done, the person will always be in search of dependence on others, financial security. This will lead to accepting less than is possible in a happy and healthy partnership.
Positive attitude
The basic principle of the Life By Design Blueprint is to focus on what is good, not what is bad. A predominant amount of advice relating directly to the relationship between two partners focuses on what not to do (I hate it if you don’t…, don’t whine…, etc.).
The secret of a happy relationship as a couple lies in the fact that it is worth paying more attention to exactly what needs to be done:
- exchange messages in which you express your love to your significant other;
- apologize;
- to give flowers for no reason;
- to have special evenings;
- to say “thank you.”
This list of what you can and should do is not limited to the examples discussed. In order to bring a positive atmosphere into a relationship, all that matters is your desire. This approach will be right not only for couples who are already in a relationship, but also in the modern dating culture.
Rationality
Simply put, rationality is evidence that we all live in the real world. The ideal form of acquiring knowledge that can be applied as a basis for our words and actions is to use logic, not emotion.
Rationality says that everyone is responsible for his or her actions, and there is no need to shift it to other external factors, or to refer to emotions. It is a misconception that rationality is irrelevant in building stress-free relationships. In fact, this trait is the most important of all.
- To summarize, we would like to say that observance of all of the above is the key to building a healthy relationship. It is also important for a couple that both partners should look in the same direction, not to limit each other, but to be able to negotiate and solve problems when they arise without involving third parties.