509,449
They don't agree and won't communicate with each other so you have 2 people telling you 2 different things.
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Anthony Acosta - ALLAT...
Atlanta, GA
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Peter Testa
Danbury, CT
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Susie Kay
Plano, TX
1,052,211
Lordy. I am happy to say that I rarely need to do so in my discipline.
HOWEVER, I do have some horror stories re both residential and investment property. One divorcing couple's ATTORNEYS would not allow a deal to go through without picking it apart. The couple were so exhausted they allowed the lunatics to run the asylum.
Another, and this was so sad - we were 2 days from closing a very long land deal and the megabitch wife served her husband with divorce papers out of the blue. He was shocked and saddened but wanted to continue with the deal. All she had to do was sign a disclaimer deed. NOPE. She wanted that money for HER. So Megabitch hosed the deal. Then Megabitch went to work for a local lender where Megabitch lasted for 2 weeks because . . . she was a Megabitch! LOL
We stayed friends with the husband and MB went back to MO where hopefully she has become permanently embedded in one of their famous caverns. LOL
How to handle this? Dispassionately. We can only be empathetic from a safe distance, do not 'take sides' and do what is necessary for the good of all. Except MB. May she rot in hell.
TGIF Tall Cans In The Air!
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Phoenix, AZ
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Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
6,393,494
Fortunately this has not been an issue.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Anthony Acosta - ALLAT...
Atlanta, GA
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Bob Crane
Stevens Point, WI
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
2,220,654
Getting both parties in the same room and having a civil discussion.
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Peter Testa
Danbury, CT
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Anthony Acosta - ALLAT...
Atlanta, GA
5,583,278
this is the perfect question for Sally K. & David L. Hanson ..... this is one of their niche areas....
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Candice A. Donofrio
Fort Mohave, AZ
758,035
I have had clients going through or having had divorces. While selling their house I treated them the same same as any other client. You just hope they're both on the same page when it comes to the sale.
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Anthony Acosta - ALLAT...
Atlanta, GA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Susie Kay
Plano, TX
375,087
Communication and agreement. One thing that I have learned over the years and tell everyone is to keep your divorce decree and child support orders FOREVER. I am constantly amazed how often I need to provide them to an underwriter 10, 15 even 18 years later when the kids are obviously grown. If any payments are listed on the credit report or go through the state, they are in danger of not being closed accurately and you need to prove the end dates with the final decree.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Candice A. Donofrio
Fort Mohave, AZ
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
508,318
The biggest challenge is dealing with the emotional aspect. Sometimes the two parties have lost trust in each other.
I had one once where we were ready to list and sell, but the two parties refused to agree on anything. The house went to foreclosure.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Candice A. Donofrio
Fort Mohave, AZ
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
3,340,443
Please feel free to contact me with any questions about all things divorce...414 525 0563...we have closed almost 400 divorce related transactions
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Candice A. Donofrio
Fort Mohave, AZ
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Susie Kay
Plano, TX
2,390,620
Believe it or not Jason E. Gordon in 20 years I have not had to deal with it.
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Anthony Acosta - ALLAT...
Atlanta, GA
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Susie Kay
Plano, TX
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Peter Testa
Danbury, CT
5,104,931
I've done any number of divorce sales and can't say it's been difficult. On the whole my clients have been quite cooperative and everything moved smoothly.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Susie Kay
Plano, TX
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Peter Testa
Danbury, CT
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
5,772,575
Jason,
We did not work with divorcing homeowners. You may want to subscribe to Sally K. & David L. Hanson blog as that is one of their specialties. My sense is that one needs to be impartial. A
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Candice A. Donofrio
Fort Mohave, AZ
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
4,882,355
Dealing with their emotions.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Candice A. Donofrio
Fort Mohave, AZ
1,196,798
I would have to say that keeping the process emotion free and civil
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Anthony Acosta - ALLAT...
Atlanta, GA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Peter Testa
Danbury, CT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
711,852
Getting them to agree! We dealt with divorcing homeowners as a buyer's agent. Each owner had their own agent - and getting them to agree was really hard!
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
2,178,603
I rarely dealt with that, thankfully. The biggest challenge is to be sure both sides are equally informed.
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
3,071,489
Two times in the last 4 months. Always an interesting dynamic to observe - but definitely not get involved with!
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
3,125,842
Avoid becoming emotionally involved and treat both fairly. Text, email and have conversations with both at the same time so all are on board.
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Susan Emo
Kingston, ON
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
5,230,113
I've learned through the years that you have to set boundaries - no emotions allowed! This is a business transaction and when they hear you say those words during your first conversation with them, each subsequent time you have to say those words again, they snap back...most of the time anyway!
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Anthony Acosta - ALLAT...
Atlanta, GA
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Peter Testa
Danbury, CT
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
344,603
The Rain here has excellent info on this and do reach out to the Hansons Blog
https://activerain.com/blogsview/5348230/no-one-buys-a-house-or-gets-married-not-expecting-happily--ever-after
activerain.com/.../guide-for-selling-a-home-during-a-divorce
activerain.com/.../divorce--contingent-liability-vs--mortgage-financing
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
1,249,513
One of my most difficult and heart-wrenching deals was with a divorcing couple.
The issues?
- wouldn't communicate with each other unless in fighting mode
- ignored my calls
- tried to make decisions unilaterally
- complained to me about how horrible the spouse was
- tanked the deal for spite
I could go on . . . but you're getting the idea.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
3,587,960
When one of the parties is feeling like a victim and dealing with that emotion and/or their anger can be tedious. Thankfully that has been rare over the years.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
921,504
Is it important to understand the human emotion that follows betrayal.
Such emotion is not confined to the two who are divorcing.
They are hearing voices from all sides. Some from their tribe. Others who simply hate the other tribe. The voice they don't hear is the wise one who knows not to get caught in the cross-fire.
Regardless of who is right or wrong, you must present yourself as impartial, not dispassionate. Listen, listen, listen. Understand that when you nod yes, it is to acknowledge you HEAR them NOT agree with them.
"Yes, I hear you."
You very well may be the only reasonable voice in the fray. It is helpful to play the 'Is there more?" scenario to allow him/her, him/him, her/her, her was him/her, him was her and him. Let them get it out and conclude with "I am relieved you shared with me how you feel. Now that you know I know, we really don' t need to bring it up again while we are involved in selling this house." They can't do it, but it's worth a try.
Just remember, yours may be the only sane person who is able to talk to them.
Now, is your PURPOSE to sell houses of ease the suffering others may be enduring?
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Candice A. Donofrio
Fort Mohave, AZ
911,338
The main problem is usually when they won't agree on what needs to be done. Sometimes I've had to meet one spouse at the home, then drive to next town and meet other spouse at McDonald's. Avoid taking sides.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
3,345,091
One was ... War of the Roses.
I am working one now that's been very amicable.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Anthony Acosta - ALLAT...
Atlanta, GA
1,844,301
I really haven't had all the many problems. I tell them that one person has to be made main contact not them & their attorneys (4).
Only had one seller who refused to leave his condo.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Peter Testa
Danbury, CT
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
1,153,794
Getting them to sit down with a Real Estate Attorney to sort through the home issue first is paramount to success. Divorce lawyers do not do real property very well and their efforts are well spent being contained within the realm of personal property in my opinion
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
7,836,139
Getting them to agree is sometimes a challenge.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
5,216,409
The best source for an answer to your question would be Sally K. & David L. Hanson.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
556,536
communication
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
1,502,998
I've only had one of these and it was no different than other listings. It was a friendly divorce.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
1,712,676
Decision making.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
1,239,901
It is often a referall from divorce lawyers.
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Denise Marfo
Autaugaville, AL
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
1,311,397
I am working with a couple of different divorcing individuals now. A seller and a buyer. Both, after months and months, keep saying their divorce is not yet finalized.
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - W...
St. George, UT
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Doug Dawes
Topsfield, MA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Charlotte, NC
4,936,705
Trying to get them both on the same page.
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
1,045,440
Probably the biggest challenge is keeping those that are going through a contenscious life experience to not be so upset with each other that the sabotage themselves..
When the divorcing couple can put that aside and focus on the goal that benefits them both the most and avoid being spiteful things go much better.
Being an agent in during a divorce means being able to help them through it but give them the ability to put it aside for the home they are selling.
I've helped quite a few such divorcing couples tackle their real estate issues in Northern Virginia over the years
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Jason E. Gordon
San Diego, CA
5,868,554