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John Meussner
Mason-McDuffie Mortgage, Conventional Loans, Jumbo Loans, FHA, 203(k), USDA, VA, - Walnut Creek, CA
#MortgageMadeEasy Walnut Creek, CA 484-680-4852

Are we really just going to copy/paste other people's conversations from other groups and pretend that we're here to contribute?  Let's be better than this in the future, shall we?

Mar 01, 2019 10:28 AM
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor

"I don't know your cousin and how he/she is regarded by other professionals in the RE industry but I can tell you I am a full time professional and as stressful as buying/selling a home is I will only be your Realtor. You will never have to worry about how to act at family gatherings once this deal is over".

Mar 01, 2019 07:22 AM
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Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

That's adorable. Why are you calling me?

I personally do not represent family members because I would like our personal relationship to stay intact. And with something as emotional and stressful as a real estate transaction, relationships can be tested. If you feel that your cousin can work with you dispassionately and professionally and that your relationship will stay the same afterwards, I wish you the best!

Mar 01, 2019 06:55 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

If it's "my cousin Vinny", that's great!  He gets the job done.  But his girlfriend's "clock is ticking", but man does she know her cars!

Mar 01, 2019 07:55 AM
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

"You obviously don't want to use your cousin or you wouldn't be reaching out to me. I'm assuming you want to keep business and family separate and I totally support your line of thinking. Let's get started!"

Mar 01, 2019 07:11 PM
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Jill Murty, Realtor - Orange County, CA
Sunset Properties, Powered by Movoto - Laguna Niguel, CA

Suppose Cousin Realtor was not your cousin, but simply another realtor.  Would you still consider hiring him or her?  If not, why would you do them a favor that may well be to your detriment? 

Mar 01, 2019 09:24 AM
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John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

I know that it is very hard to not help a family member. Do you think that using a relative just because of family is more important to you than getting the best possible results by using an experienced agent?

Mar 01, 2019 08:27 AM
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Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

I would say:
"It's always good to support family as long as it's not detrimental to your own well-being.  If you think your cousin is the best person for the job, great.  If you have doubts, you might want to interview a few other agents."

Mar 01, 2019 07:44 AM
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Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

So you want your cousin knowing about your business?

Mar 01, 2019 07:13 AM
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J.R. Schloemer, CRS
Kentucky Select Properties - Louisville, KY

Just what Candice A. Donofrio said. Although I would probably add in there, "I hope your Thanksgiving dinner is as happy and  not awkward as I plan mine will be."

Also, Thank You John Meussner for that.

Mar 01, 2019 07:52 PM
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Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTACONDOS.COM
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

See John Meussner comment. 

Mar 01, 2019 07:36 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, EXP - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Picking the right agent can save or earn you thousands.

Are you looking to donate some money to your cousin or do you want the best agent for the job.

Mar 01, 2019 02:20 PM
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Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
& Host of Postcards From Success Podcast

What concerns do you have about working with your cousin?

What are the benefits of working with him/her?

Why are you calling me?

Mar 01, 2019 09:52 AM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

Good luck with that.... I never list properties owned by family members or close friends.... it ends up an emotional disaster because those two categories of clients have an emotional tie to the listing agent... again, good luck wih it...  call me when you've reached your limit....

Mar 01, 2019 08:42 AM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

Good luck.

Mar 01, 2019 08:17 AM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

William,

I like Carol Williams answer and I concur.  A

Mar 01, 2019 08:12 AM
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Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Realty - Topsfield, MA - Georgetown, MA
Your Personal Realtor®

Everyone knows someone in Real Estate. Here's what I offer you...

Mar 01, 2019 07:33 AM
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Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Good luck. 

Mar 01, 2019 07:24 AM
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Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Oh, that's great! Who is your cousin? Is he a skilled realtor in our service area? 

 

 

Mar 01, 2019 07:14 AM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Good luck!

Mar 01, 2019 07:05 AM
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Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

first cousin? Second Cousin? Kissing Cousin.....? 

Mar 02, 2019 12:36 AM
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Kevin J. May
Florida Supreme Realty - Hobe Sound, FL
Serving the Treasure & Paradise Coasts of Florida

Could not agree more with what John Meussner wrote.

Mar 01, 2019 10:57 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Isn't it great to keep family in mind? You will have to make allowances some unpleasant but at least there is instant trust? The only other consideration would be to work with a professional that is bound to work ethics & results exclusively instead of an emotional-driven-connection. Emotions tend to create problems at times. Professionals know how to navigate this and stay more focused. It is wise to treat this as a business

Mar 01, 2019 07:59 AM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

In my experience working with relatives is not what I what to do. They were always the most difficult.

Mar 01, 2019 07:38 AM
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Dave Martin (703) 585-4687
Fairfax Realty - Fairfax, VA
Making Realty Dreams a Reality #WeWillGetYouHome

 You said "might go with him" Why? 

Wait for response...

My next response will depend on how they answer. Why?

Mar 01, 2019 03:44 PM
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John Pusa
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Crest - Glendale, CA
Your All Time Realtor With Exceptional Service

Your cousin may not want to work with you.

Mar 01, 2019 02:05 PM
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Richard Bazinet /MBA, CRS, ABR
West USA Realty - Scottsdale, AZ
Phoenix Scottsdale. Sellers, Buyers & Relocations

Are you sure? Why would you choose your cousin as your realtor? Is your cousin realy, really, really good? Will you be provided with a power marketing plan in writing like mine?

Set the timer on the bomb and see if it explodes 💣

Mar 01, 2019 11:18 AM
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

I would ask why they are contacting me if they feel obliged to use their cousin. Seriously, I concur with Carol Williams response.

Mar 01, 2019 10:28 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Does he work in this area?  Has he had a lot of sales?

Mar 02, 2019 06:43 AM
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Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

I would ask him to sign an exclusive agency agreement before you gave away your trade secrete. No exceptions.

Mar 01, 2019 12:19 PM
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

OH Oh.

Mar 09, 2019 10:51 AM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Are you doing it for family loyalty or to accomplish your goal? Is you cousin the best source?

Mar 04, 2019 04:49 AM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

You may want to think twice about that.  What if___________________

Mar 03, 2019 09:03 AM