Barbara Todaro, Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team (RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired )

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Sandy Padula & Norm Padula, JD, GRI
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Not an Elder Care Attorney, but a Trust Attorney for my parents to help them avoid the pitfalls of probate and escheat.

Mar 26, 2017 02:39 PM
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Susan Emo
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We lost my MIL to Alzheimers 2 years ago but fortunately this was in the UK and the National Health took great care of her to the end.  My Mother is 88 and mentally sound (thank God) but we have all of her paperwork in order just in case.

 

Mar 26, 2017 01:39 PM
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Scott Godzyk
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My parents refused, not sure how to proceed as they put it off. 

Mar 26, 2017 02:30 PM
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
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It's a tough issue but planning ahead is important. I am the trustee for my Mom's trust and also we have all the health care documents in order should they be needed. No dementia at this time thankfully, at 90.

Mar 26, 2017 01:29 PM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
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Barbara,

Luckily we both lost our parents before that was the case, and new research shows that some dementia is caused by poor breathing habits. Deep breathing brings oxygen to the brain as opposed to shallow breathing.    A

Mar 26, 2017 12:53 PM
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Anna "Banana" Kruchten
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Yes our family dealt with seeing my Dad with this horrible disease - tough on everyone and most of all him. Sometimes he was so confused as to why he was confused. He was one of those guys who was on top of everything. Thankfully everything was handled properly way before we lost him and my Mom.

Mar 26, 2017 02:38 PM
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Roy Kelley
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No. This will be a good blog topic for you to write a series.

Mar 26, 2017 02:17 PM
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Maria Sapio
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Good recommendation for some to consider ...

Mar 26, 2017 02:08 PM
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Sybil Campbell
Fernandina Beach, FL
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No but I probably should.

Mar 26, 2017 02:07 PM
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Richie Alan Naggar
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My son the attorney has handled cases...Patients become vulnerable...sad

Mar 26, 2017 01:28 PM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
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Barbara ... that is all behind me now.  Been there ... done that with my Mother. What a journey it was. 

Mar 26, 2017 01:23 PM
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
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Fortunately, on a personal level, have not had to deal with this with my parents. And as I was my mother's power of attorney and executor, it was easy to dispose of her property and estate after she passed. I have had the occasional client who has dealt with just this issue. It's not easy.

Mar 26, 2017 01:15 PM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
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My parents are not in this country. But time flies, it will not take long when I need that consultation myself...

Mar 26, 2017 11:52 PM
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Sam Shueh
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I have given up a couple of Japanese American farmers wanting to sell theuir farm land but unwilling to pay for capital gain tax. Looks like they will dump the chore to their children by having them to deal with it. 

Mar 26, 2017 02:34 PM
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Praful Thakkar
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Barbara Todaro - my parents are no more (and were in India all the time.)

Mar 26, 2017 11:00 PM
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Troy Erickson AZ Realtor (602) 295-6807
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Barbara - I know my parents set up a trust a few years ago, not sure about my in-laws.

Mar 26, 2017 10:14 PM
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Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
CEO of Vision Drive Realty - Coastal San Diego

We have a family plan in place.

Mar 26, 2017 10:00 PM
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Bob Crane
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Never met one of these types of attnys, hopefully I will not need one anytime soon.

 

Mar 26, 2017 09:29 PM
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Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
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   We have a trust set up for Mom. 

Mar 26, 2017 09:20 PM
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Les & Sarah Oswald
Realty One Group - Eastvale, CA
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Going thru it right now with my parent. Dad's Alzheimer is controlled at this moment, but I know the time will arrive when meds will no longer be of use. In my Asian family, we just don't talk or discuss of what ifs or how to prepare. I have tried several times to no avail to try to get their finances in order. At this point, all I can say is...it is, what it is.

Mar 26, 2017 08:44 PM
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
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No but I wish I had before my mom got so bad... (Lessons learned)

Mar 26, 2017 08:16 PM
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Diana White-Pettis
Bennett Realty Solutions - Upper Marlboro, MD
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No, I was the POA and executor for my parents and neither needed nursing home care at the time of their passing.  They made sure all paperwork was in place many, many years in advance.

Mar 26, 2017 07:56 PM
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Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
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We have all our directives and living wills in place and long term health care also. Alzheimers runs in my husband's family. My dad died at 94 and sharp as a tack mentally. I hope that will be me.

Mar 26, 2017 07:24 PM
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Gita Bantwal
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No

Mar 26, 2017 06:45 PM
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Wayne Martin
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Fortunately, we had the situation handled before losing our parents

Mar 26, 2017 06:20 PM
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
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I actually have - gotten POA and names added to appropriate accounts/Titles, etc.  In my opinion, it's never too early.  

I lost my grandfather to Alzheimers and that taught our entire family a very valuable lesson, Barbara Todaro.

Mar 26, 2017 03:04 PM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
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I haven't encountered that but that consultation would be essential.

Mar 26, 2017 02:57 PM
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Paul Antonelli
Antonelli Realty - Saint Cloud, FL
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NO

Mar 26, 2017 02:18 PM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
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No

Mar 27, 2017 04:59 AM
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Dave Martin (703) 585-4687
Fairfax Realty - Fairfax, VA
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Yes and you need to be very very cautious in your selection of attorneys whether prepping for the future or a more current pressing need... many in this field charge ridiculous fees upfront without providing any details of what they actually do. I recently had to handle this situation Barbara Todaro 

Mar 04, 2018 09:43 AM
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

I have not, but watched my previous boss go from a vibrant man to Alzheimers.  He died in October at 93, and still miss him.

Mar 29, 2017 08:39 AM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
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Wow, now you have me thinking about this suggest.

 

Mar 28, 2017 06:46 AM
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Harry F. D'Elia III
WEDO Real Estate and Beyond, LLC - Phoenix, AZ
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This day will come to you. Be prepared--I experienced with both of my inlaws.

Mar 27, 2017 09:20 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
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I think everything is already in order.

Mar 27, 2017 09:08 AM
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Susan Haughton
Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA
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I just went through a situation with a beloved Aunt, who had everything well organized until her long time partner/executor passed away and in her grief, she neglected to appoint another executor for her own estate before she had a stroke and became incapacitated.  

All I will say is it was a trying and difficult situation until we were able to find a wonderful woman who is an eldercare attorney whose background is in healthcare, and whose partner is a CPA.   They were able to go to court and become appointed as my aunt's fiduciary (this took place in California while the rest of family is largely in Virginia), thankfully, and get her placed in a terrific assisted living facility.  

We were relatively lucky in how everything turned out, but it gave me quite an insight into what can happen with folks' lives if they are not properly prepared.  And dementia/alzheimers can rear its ugly head at a much younger age than anyone realizes. My aunt had good friends and a substantial estate, which certainly helped, and it was still quite a challenge there for a while. It is critical folks be prepared.

Mar 27, 2017 07:59 AM
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Wayne Zuhl
Remax First Realty II - Cranford, NJ
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Many years ago, my father fell and was hospitalized. When we realized the extent of his injuries, my mother arranged with an elder attorney to get his affairs in order and to protect his and my mother's assets as best as possible - prepaid funeral expenses, etc. As it turns out, the injury was permanent as he spent the next 14 years in a subacute facility until his death 2 years ago. 

It was among the most difficult things I've ever worked through. If this is something you're facing, I'm happy to lend an ear. 

- J

Mar 27, 2017 06:47 AM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
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You bet, that I planned on doing that, but I forgot the attorneys name.

Then I remembered two days later and forgot where they were.

Then I remembered where they were  and went there and forgot why.

Now I'm trying to remember who I was trying to see.

Mar 27, 2017 06:10 AM
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Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
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I have not

but my parents have provided in their living wills

Mar 27, 2017 05:55 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Unfortunately, I've dealt with this already.

Mar 27, 2017 05:19 AM
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Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

Yes I've dealt with that last year with my father. You have to do it way before things start to downslide. It's really sad & happening alot it seems.

Mar 27, 2017 05:17 AM
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Nathan Gesner
American West Realty and Management - Cody, WY
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It seems to be getting more and more complex. It makes sense to prepare as early as possible and review things every year or two to ensure you are up on the latest requirements.

Mar 27, 2017 05:14 AM
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Gloria Valvasori, Accredited Senior Agent
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I have all my ducks in a row, with my Will and both Powers of Attorney in place.  I also made sure my mother had hers in place, as well as my elderly aunts.  I also had my mom's and my aunt's accounts in both our names siince i was POA for both, so nothing to probate.  I have done the same with my daughter... accounts in both names so she doesn't have to go through Probate either. Since I am an Accredited Senior Agent, I also ensure my clients have all their paperwork in place as well..

Mar 27, 2017 05:08 AM
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Michael Jacobs
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This is an interesting question and I have not dealt with this issue personally(yet).  My brother-in-law's mother and my mom's cousin's wife both suffered through this horrible disease.   

Mar 27, 2017 05:07 AM