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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS, South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker! (Fathom Realty Washington LLC)

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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
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it has nothing to do with caring!!   I care but I have never lost sleep over the tasks of the next day.... that's focus and discipline.... learn to clear your mind at the end of the day, and that's possible if you've completed the tasks for that day....we can't address what's not due to be addressed!!!!  have self confidence that you will walk away with positive results....and then forget about it until the next day....REFOCUS.... IT'S A DISCIPLINE THAT NEEDS TO BE LEARNED.

Aug 11, 2016 11:54 PM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
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I rarely lose sleep over business.  Oddly enough, last night I could not get to sleep as my mind was on one transaction.  I do care, and for the most part, the caring does not equate to sleepless nights. 

Aug 12, 2016 12:43 AM
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

It depends. Sometimes it's easy to step away, other times not

Aug 11, 2016 11:50 PM
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Evelyn Johnston
Friends & Neighbors Real Estate - Elkhart, IN
The People You Know, Like and Trust!

Yep, I am always thinking of what still needs to be done, something new to implement or how I can do something else along with everything I already do.

Aug 12, 2016 02:23 AM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Puul,

We care but not enough to weaken our health and welfare.  If we are not feeling good or tired, what good are we to them.  You are not in the business of saving lives, and the first life that matters is yours.  A

Aug 12, 2016 12:54 AM
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Pete Xavier
Investments to Luxury - Pacific Palisades, CA
Outstanding Agent Referrals-Nationwide

Do ALL you can with time blocking your mind, tell your mind between this and this time is me time/rest time so you can be 100% ready to handle the tasks in the morning. It is not easy, but a must for a proper work/life balance and your long term health.

Aug 12, 2016 12:04 AM
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Michael J. Perry
KW Elite - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist

Sometimes

Aug 11, 2016 11:51 PM
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Patricia Kennedy
RLAH@Properties - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

I lie in bed at night thinking about my buyers.  And once in a while, I'll wake up from a dream about a listing I think I've forgotten about.

Aug 12, 2016 03:02 PM
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Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

     I can turn it off, and then turn it back on later.  I care, but I need to sleep, rest, and take some mental time-off.

Aug 12, 2016 09:32 AM
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Dick Greenberg
New Paradigm Partners LLC - Fort Collins, CO
Northern Colorado Residential Real Estate

Hi Paul - Same here, only worse, because there are two of us - sometimes we just turn on the light in the middle of the night and start talking about whatever it is again.

Aug 12, 2016 06:26 AM
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Liz and Bill Spear
Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com - Mason, OH
Transaction Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

Paul, Maybe it's being an engineer, but I can compartmentalize fairly well.  Or maybe it's the two job thing and running on only 5-6 hours of sleep most days, but once I go to bed I'm out without much tossing and turning.  Bill

Aug 12, 2016 12:55 AM
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Raymond E. Camp
Ontario, NY

Our government taught me a long time ago that when the eyes close make it feel like eight hours even if it five minutes and let the mind go blank but keep the senses alive!

Aug 12, 2016 12:45 AM
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Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

Having some stress is healthy.  Having no stress or pressure can create a different type of stress.

Aug 12, 2016 12:44 AM
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Sandy Padula & Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Florida Realty Investments - , CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

Most of the time, but once in a while.....

Aug 12, 2016 12:06 AM
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

I am a caring person but fortunately I know that there ae things I can not control so do not worry about those things. I agree with Barbara.

Aug 12, 2016 12:02 AM
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Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, Broker, Tacoma Washington Nothing is so urgent or important that it can't wait until the next day.

Aug 11, 2016 11:56 PM
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
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Some days I can put it behind me and other days not so much.

Aug 12, 2016 10:09 PM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

no problem sleeping here!

Aug 12, 2016 09:57 PM
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Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, Broker, Tacoma Washington if you are caring - you must care for yourself and your family, isn't it?

Your health matters a lot for your family - you should not be tossing all night worried about something that you can't control or change.

Aug 12, 2016 04:44 PM
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Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Paul let me introduce you to DocuSign then you do not need to worry:)Endre

Aug 12, 2016 03:44 PM
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Debbie Laity
Cedaredge Land Company - Cedaredge, CO
Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO

I worked at home for one day about two weeks ago. I thought it would be more relaxing. It wasn't. I kept feeling like I was skipping school by not being around the office. 

I told myself I have to program my brain to shut down and forget work at certain times. I'm still working on that. 

Aug 12, 2016 12:11 PM
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Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

I remembe early in my career I thought about it all the time. Now I can put is aside and only give it extra thought when I need to work out a problem.

Aug 12, 2016 11:37 AM
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Sybil Campbell
Fernandina Beach, FL
Referral Agent Amelia Island Florida

I have learned to let things go when it comes to work but there were times when I would lose sleep over my business.

Aug 12, 2016 11:34 AM
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Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

I have fabulous agents that watch my business when I am away so I don't ever toss and turn while on vacation.

Aug 12, 2016 11:26 AM
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Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Paul, I'd love to say I can just turn it off at 5:00, but I never really turn it off. 

Aug 12, 2016 09:59 AM
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Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

I do agree with Barbara. Its a discipline that needs to be learned. I enjoy my private time and can enjoy it because I know I've done the best I can for my clients.

Aug 12, 2016 07:08 AM
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Allie Angeloni
Long Realty - Oro Valley, AZ

I, too, have always thought about any job on my time off - sometimes it's a 'worry', and other times it is not Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, Broker, Tacoma Washington.  And here, that is what we talk about in our free time, too, since we are both realtors - HA! 

Aug 12, 2016 07:07 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

There are days like this for me as well.  Though, I'm getting better at it.

Aug 12, 2016 06:57 AM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA

I'm pretty good in focusing on things that I can do to fix now, instead of warring about possible consequences. Years of practicing yoga probably helped:) 

Aug 12, 2016 05:20 AM
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Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

Turn your head off at night. Unplug the cord.

Aug 12, 2016 05:16 AM
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Jill Murty, Realtor - Orange County, CA
Movoto - Laguna Niguel, CA

Long distance signatures can easily be obtained using electronic signatures.  Even the most un-tech savvy clients can do electronic signatures.  It is the rare occasion that a client just doesn't feel comfortable using them. 

Aug 12, 2016 05:09 AM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Been there and still there.  I care to much some one said once.

Aug 12, 2016 05:02 AM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

I am on 24/7 have been since starting my childhood businesses.  Cant imagine how to shut it off.

Aug 12, 2016 03:53 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

I keep a clear mind.  It isn't a lack of caring, it's a lack of worrying about things outside of my control and not being attached.  Just had a 1.16m listing fall out of escrow last night.  Today there is another full price offer on the table.  Zero need to fret or lose sleep.

Aug 13, 2016 06:44 AM
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Harry F. D'Elia III
WEDO Real Estate and Beyond, LLC - Phoenix, AZ
Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR

I have to admit that I sleep well at night.

Aug 13, 2016 01:04 AM
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Brenda Mayette
Miranda Real Estate Group, Inc. - Glenville, NY
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It happens but I'm trying to work on keeping a healthy perspective... I recently saw a 5x5 rule that helps:  "If it's not going ot matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 minutes upset by it".   Post it! Try it!! :)

Aug 13, 2016 12:04 AM
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Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

It happens.   

As usual Barbara Todaro has provided a good answer.   

Aug 13, 2016 12:00 AM
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Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

You are not alone! I think most responsible people tend to bring their cares home with them.

Aug 12, 2016 11:56 PM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Your curse is you customer's blessing! Relax a bit!

Aug 12, 2016 10:36 PM
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Wayne Zuhl
Remax First Realty II - Cranford, NJ
The Last Name You'll Ever Need in Real Estate

One of us tosses and turns and worries all night. The other one doesn't. 

Marriage is all about compromise, isn't it 

Aug 12, 2016 10:13 PM
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Melissa Jackson REALTOR
Trinity Premier Properties - Azle, TX
Helping You Make The Right Move

When important dates are near I get just like you.  Buyer has an option period ending 8/13.  It's after midnight and I'm still up. 

Aug 12, 2016 03:43 PM
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Kathleen Luiten
Resort and Second-Home Specialist - Princeville, HI
Kauai Luxury Ocean Home Sales

Try meditation, Paul. It helps quiet the mind.

Aug 12, 2016 01:33 PM
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Donna Foerster
HomeSmart Realty Group - Parker, CO
Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant

Oh no, I'm a thinker and I over think just about everything. I spend a lot of time worrying or re-thinking something. I have a hard time falling and staying asleep!

 

Aug 12, 2016 11:45 AM
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FN LN
Toronto, ON

Yes.

Aug 12, 2016 07:29 AM