12,727
I do think that we are becoming too sensitive. I love to be in the company of people who speak their mind and encourage me to speak mine. People who view disagreement as a spark for intellectual conversation and growth rather than as a spark for offense are the people I like to keep in my company. Of course respect for others needs to be maintained, and part of that respect is relaying our thoughts truthfully to others.
Great question topic!
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Sue Smith
Pelham, AL
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Hank Dugie
League City, TX
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Carpinteria, CA
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Judith Sinnard
Houston, TX
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
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Frank Rubi
Metairie, LA
5,829,154
Political correctness is highly overrated in my book. I think we should be kind but this other stuff takes the "real" out of any conversation. We were talking about furniture with friends and one person said "I don't like anything Oriental." She then was mortified that she had offended me... and I wasn't. The whole thing is silly.
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Sue Smith
Pelham, AL
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Carpinteria, CA
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
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Mark Don McInnes, Sand...
Sandpoint, ID
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
4,800,082
I don't know if I'm more easily offended or just tired of all the political attacks from both fringes. Neither of these groups have any clue of how to be civil.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Carpinteria, CA
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
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Frank Rubi
Metairie, LA
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
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Mark Don McInnes, Sand...
Sandpoint, ID
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
1,452,969
I do think the world has become far too PC. To think that popular comedians will not work at colleges and universities now because their jokes just don't fly with the uber pc crowd - that is sad.
I still believe in the old adage "Sticks and stones will break my bones
But words will never harm me." I was always taught to consider the source and to have enough confidence in myself to never mind what anyone else had to say. When did that change??
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
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Frank Rubi
Metairie, LA
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
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Susan Emo
Kingston, ON
3,626,530
You bet all the time I watch what I say instead of saying what I would like to
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Timothy Becker
Fountain, CO
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Carpinteria, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
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Frank Rubi
Metairie, LA
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
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Mark Don McInnes, Sand...
Sandpoint, ID
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
212,755
Yes, especially the younger generations now growing up. I blame the ridiculous things they get in trouble for at school now, it has gotten out of hand.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Carpinteria, CA
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
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Jill Murty, Realtor - ...
Laguna Niguel, CA
5,104,931
For sure... and we have lost our sense of humor along with the icreased sensitivity. I'm very tired of all this pc stuff!
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Sue Smith
Pelham, AL
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Minot, ND
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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James Dray
Bentonville, AR
2,707,721
I think the media's agenda has been to make everyone think they are being offended...
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Sue Smith
Pelham, AL
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Judith Sinnard
Houston, TX
921,504
Are we too easily offended?
If any of the following is true about the reader, you just might be too easily offended.
- You engage in listening to gossip. Gossip is ANY conversation about a person not in attendance that is not directly beneficial to that person.
- You engage in spreading gossip. Gossip is ANY conversation about a person not in attendance this is not directly beneficial to that person.
- When other are talking you are forming a response about YOUR experience. "It's all about me" people are easily offended.
- Do you listen to the speaker or only hear reason of offense.
- Do you not see the folks citing or teaching you about PC, themselves are the greatest violators.
Let's face it. We are in a seasons of following China's example of rewriting history. The WINNERS have always had this power. Who then defeated the American people? Who has been behind the curtain for over 30 years pressing a relentless attack on Christians and white, heterosexual males?
The winners are prevailing because everyone, everyone, everyone is afraid to fight. Hmm, sounds like the Afghanistan army.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Carpinteria, CA
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
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Mark Don McInnes, Sand...
Sandpoint, ID
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
6,393,609
Most people are not that sensitive, but the media plays up those who are so it seems worse than it is.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Judith Sinnard
Houston, TX
1,725,996
I have never been a PC individual, but I also abide by the 'Golden Rule'. This position seems to work for me.
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Sue Smith
Pelham, AL
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
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Susan Emo
Kingston, ON
856,072
YESSS. I am often taken too serious, and of late seems that I see people reacting to something said, 180 degrees from its obvious intent. I have no idea why. I will say though, that the walking on egg shells is about over and I will be going back to my take it or leave it attitude...being respectful of course. Mark
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Sue Smith
Pelham, AL
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
2,781,173
Being easy-peasy and speaking your peace when appropriate is the natural way. If one has something to do or say, let them go forth. How they say it is important. Pride, which protects the ego, is always looking for opportunity. I just do what I believe to be right in my heart and let truth & goodness prevail
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
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Mark Don McInnes, Sand...
Sandpoint, ID
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
725,121
Yes absolutely. There is no "right" not to be offended.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Hank Dugie
League City, TX
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
19,007
Yes its because we have become a nation of cry baby, victims, fearful of our own shadows, who take offense to perceived slights (real or not), sadly this sentiment has been fueled for political gain to the detriment of the masses. Its the new reality we live in and until we regain our self respect and get out individual confidence back it will remain because right now "everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die"
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Hank Dugie
League City, TX
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
1,239,901
Alexandra,
I like to be treated as I treat others. Every once in a while there are clients step on your toe. I do not recall they have complained about my style or personality affecting a relationship.....
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Sam Shueh
San Jose, CA
187,002
Nowadays some get a instant death penalty by offending. I try to say things as amicable as one could.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Hank Dugie
League City, TX
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Amelia Robinette
Falls Church, VA
634,482
I think there are genuinely offensive comments and then there are people who look for anything that can be interpreted as possibly offensive, even when the intent is clearly not to offend.
Yes, many people are much too easily offended. I refuse to walk on eggshells. If someone is too narrow to receive my true intent I let them have their mistaken offense.
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
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Frank Rubi
Metairie, LA
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
2,310,576
I think it is hard to generalize. I don't take things people say about me too seriously. What matters most is what I think of myself. If someone chooses to lash out at me, they obviously have some issues that I am not aware of.
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
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Mark Don McInnes, Sand...
Sandpoint, ID
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
1,771,867
On the Internet yes Ron & Alexandra and I agree with many of these answers.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
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Barbara Todaro
Franklin, MA
5,583,278
yes, we are over the top with political correctness.....
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
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Mark Don McInnes, Sand...
Sandpoint, ID
3,071,489
Ron and Alexandra Seigel In the US (as opposed to the UK) - absolutely yes. And - no eggshells for me. Don't know if it's due to the Monty Python upbringing but I get a kick out of "the Donald" telling these PC reporters to go "pound sand"!
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Tony and Suzanne Marri...
Scottsdale, AZ
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
3,988,007
Very touchy indeed. It seems you can't speak your mind on any subject without someone rearing their head and saying you hurt my feelings or you are a bigot, prejudice or unfair.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
699,277
Yes, it's not fun to be PC.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
115,432
I think political correctness has become so over the top that we all walk around on egg shells. A real shame really.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
39,897
YES!!!
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Hank Dugie
League City, TX
2,390,620
I think most people are much easily-er offended because it has become "Chic" to be offended. It's like everyone wants to be in a niche or group. Being a "victim" has become all the rage. To bad, I enjoy being a Realman and a Christian who can take it and forgive it.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
386,342
No question about it. Some people are too easily offended. The media is part of the problem. They seem to look for these "offended" people and then give them free publicity. I guess it brings them ratings.
P.S. Reading through this whole thread, I have to agree with President Bush about broccoli!
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
1,027,602
Yes, people have become much too sensitive and are easily offended. No, I do not monitor what I say or think as to not offend. I do not go out of my way to be insulting and have always prided myself on my innate tact, but beyond that, no.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
28,413
Yes, I have a bold personality and at times I don't speak because I think it might offend or hurt someone.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Hank Dugie
League City, TX
1,209,215
I still say it as I see it. I never go out of my way to be offensive or rude, but I'm not walking on anybody's eggshells.
The fact that everybody wants to "nerf the world" has softened all of us and made us all so ridiculously sensitive that it drives me nuts.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
1,712,676
We all need a filter before we speak, and we should use empathy to guide our response. I don't have a problem speaking my mind but I realize that for reality testing my truth extens to the tip of my nose and goes no further it it does not create emotional resonance in the person I am speaking to.
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Thomas J. Nelson, REAL...
La Jolla, CA
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Amelia Robinette
Falls Church, VA
1,064,623
Aloha RnA,
This is a post about manners, if you truly do not want to offend someone, follow established etiquette and protocol. Those who think manners are merely superfluous remnants of the Victorian era are the self centered jerks of this one.
Taking offense to what others have to say is a choice. What I like to remind myself is not to take what others say too personally. What you think of me is really none of my business and vice versa. However, if your going to stand up on a soap box and pontificate don't be surprised if you get a bit of rotten fruit in your face, after all you are inviting it.
a hui hou,
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Nancy Robinson Ranked ...
Royal Oak, MI
364,623
Yes! I think your question applies to Agents and Inspectors nowadays as there are Home Inspector's out there that are trained not to "elevate or heighten moods in a negative way" to anyone involved in the Real Estate transaction as its bad for business and subsequent referrals from Agents.
Since most of you are Real Estate Agents, how do you think Inspectors should talk, write, or convey their findings?
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Hank Dugie
League City, TX
420,985
i think it really depends who you are dealing with. some are more open then others and some take life more seriously then others. If you break it down to the different personality types, I think some are definitely more easily offended. I have no problem saying what I mean and meaning what I say. Being rude or inappropriate is one thing but others sensitivity level is not my problem, it's theirs.
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Bruce Brockmeier
Yorba Linda, CA
323,664
Hello Ron and Alexandra. You proffer an interesting question, and the answers will vary, but there will be a common thread through many along the lines of being careful what we say; and another will form around the idea that some folks are never satisfied. I am NOT easily offened. I try to be accomodating without being wishy-washy, but I will not compromise my values in order to appear something I am not. Example: I have originated loans where parents owed back child support, and a judge ordered a catch-up plan that was being followed in good faith. I had no problem working the loan; but on a few occasions I worked with spouses who attempted to hide their obligation and wanted me to look the other way. No! I figure "a man who does not take care of his family is worse than an infidel", and I care more for children than getting a deal. What always struck me strange is the man who abandons his responsibility to children of his own blood, moves in with another woman and takes on the role of provider in that household. Simple Rule: "Right is Right. Wrong is Wrong. And you never have the right to do wrong."
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
969,888
Yes, to much PC going on. Before you know it saying "I'm going fishing" will be offensive.
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Nina Hollander, Broker
Charlotte, NC
1,683,912
There are always situations where we have to walk on eggshells once in a while.
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
864,658
I do think twice before I react or speak my mind. I know that compassion and sensitivity are some of the ingredients that are lacking in our daily conversations. We all need to lead the future generation by example.
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Sandy Padula & Norm Pa...
, CA
4,272,548
I find it amusing that the people, I see, who are the most venomous have the thinnest skins.
533,993
i believe everyone is overly cautious and that people are also overly sensative.
5,772,575
Thank you all taking the time to answer this question. We appreciate it, and wish each and everyone of you continued success. A
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Just walking on some proverbial eggshells reading this column (you should read Greg Nino's blog and see some real eggshells. Have a great day
1,084,061
Yes I do...I try not to work with those that make me feel that uncomfortable..
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totally .... just read a "black and white ' blog..it was good but we have to dance around things instead of have a healthy discussion.
1,543,823
You find what you seek, when you seek negatives-there you go. I not only think they are more easily offended, they seek to be. People seem to look for ways to be offended today rather than focus on what's important. CA freeways are loaded with them.
Before I had "anything to lose" in my ignorant youth, I I got in lots of trouble "policing the world". Now, as a Dad, Husband, Business owner & Leader. I have to knock'em out with higher ground emotional intelligence...it's tough to set the right example...you have to swallow ego sometimes; that's why so few do. Still a student, still growing-BTW.
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Absolutely. I believe as a Christian though we need to speak the truth in love. Hopefully if we do that well, then it will not offend. Great question!
1,577,943
Oh my goodness yes, YES! It's ridiculous that we can't find humor in our differences any longer. We're too serious and frankly self-absorbed. Not everything is about us.
966,859
oh goodness yes! Even with my own family. What ever happened with "the Golden Rule" principle?
763,883
Yes, but as Realtors we are good at figuring out the type of conversation to have with our new clients in a rather short amount of time.
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Yes, it seems that if you come across a person that isn't offended it's rare. I don't believe that all the political correctness is helpful and actually I believe it continues to cause more rifts.
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I can see why a perception of overly PC can get frustrating, but why not respect a group or person who says "that's offensive, please stop"? And then stop. I see the proliferation of such a high level of respect for our fellow society members as a positive.
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel , I don't know if people in general are really 'offended', or they seem to be because are told they should be. In reaction to that, I am usually 'careful' what I say and how I say it, but still say what needs to be said. Works sometimes better than others.
I've generally found that those who preach "tolerance" of their "beliefs" are proportionally intolerant of others. Especially when they have is a reactive audience for their feel-good moment...
Bruce
183,407
I don't think people are more sensitive, I think we've been culturally conditioned to "react" and in retrospect I think that is sad. The generations behind mine have lost the means to "dialog meaningfully" --- which is a give-and-take learning process of exchanging and assimilating information that may or may not include differing views. Nope. . now they are taught to self-edit with each "takling head" regugitating what they heard online .. then the other person does the same ... and the "conversation ends". Sad ... very sad.
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I think way too many people grew up listening to BIG BIRD tell them they were special just because,,,,,. And some of that big bird generation feels showing up intitles them to what ever the heck benefits their ingrained belief that they are special just because.
Sorry BIG BIRD I'm calling you out on this!!!