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Jill Murty, Realtor - Orange County, CA
Movoto - Laguna Niguel, CA

I was in a meeting where my client was signing a lease agreement.  The husband and wife landlords were present and the husband said he thought I'd be a great match for their son.

He was telling me what a great guy he was and that he'd like to set up a meeting.  I said his son sounds wonderful, but my husband doesn't like me to date.

We all had a good laugh.

Mar 18, 2015 02:41 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Never had the chance.  Every time I tried, my wife beat the s**t out of me!!

Mar 18, 2015 08:23 AM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

I connected with someone on Match.com many years ago. We never actually met in person but talked on the phone and emailed. When it came time for him to buy a home, he asked me to help.  Of course, I did. So his home buying is why we finally met. It was all very professional. I took him to dinner to celebrate the closing. Not uncommon for me to do with clients. He invited me back to his house to see what he had done after he moved in. Big mistake. And I would not call that encounter a date. I've not seen him since. It is my policy not to date clients. Of course, if the right exception comes along ... I just might make it Never say never ...

Mar 18, 2015 10:21 AM
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

Since I have been married 35 years and a Realtor for just 16; I think my wife would frown upon it ...

Mar 18, 2015 09:57 AM
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John McCormack, CRS
Albuquerque Homes Realty - Albuquerque, NM
Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me!

I have not.  My wife wouldn't appreciate that :)

Mar 18, 2015 04:38 AM
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Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

Not me - but I will watch these answers! I think it is a tricky practice that I would avoid but I have been married for 37 years and only in real estate for 26!

Mar 17, 2015 09:17 PM
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Jane Kalinowsky
Pantanella & Partners - Redondo Beach, CA
3rd Generation REALTOR® SRES®, CCS® (Luxury)

Ok. So, I've been in this business for 10 years and I've heard it all, or I thought I did, until a few months ago, when I attended an open house and overheard an agent telling another agent what her "duties" were on the team.  

But to keep this PG 13, I myself, a hopeless romantic, still thinks I met my soul mate two years ago. But the timing wasn't right..My married friends, that truly know what love stands for, kept telling me... "you will know it when it happens...." Well it happen. So what know? So, Yes, Kathleen Daniels, Never say never.... I will tell you my story a little later. As for, Jill Murty, did their son really sound wonderful? I'm single :) My opinion, it can't be any worse then finding someone online! First and foremost, they know how your schedule on a daily basis. No big surprise on working odd hours. Nothing worse than taking a client out to dinner for their celebration dinner, when a boyfriend, now ex, shows up making a scene in a restaurant! Drama! I don't do drama. I have enough of it with this career at times. I'll let you use your imagination. Second, they have a job because you know their financial background enough to at least put down 3%  for an earnest deposit. No surprise there. You probably already met most of his family too, because they all have their own opinions as well. As a matter of fact, you probably know more about him in the home buying or selling process than any new relationship you start. I have a few girlfriends that met their husbands during their real estate process. Now living in L.A. nothing is off the table! Sometimes I have to wear a fake wedding ring so guys, and sadly, even husbands, don't hit on me. And finally, which brings up my next question for Bruce Walter, lol... What would you do to get that $20 Million dollar listing? (As one of my ex's said, "I can be a team player if  need be.")

Mar 18, 2015 05:28 PM
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Larry Johnston
Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC - Elkhart, IN
Broker,Friends & Neighbors Real Estate, Elkhart,IN

My wife would kill me if I did!

Mar 18, 2015 01:21 PM
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Jayne Esposito
Coldwell Banker - Morgan Hill, CA
SRES, GREEN

Since I am showing my husband houses for us, I guess I can say I've done both...I dated him in the last, and I'm married to him now 

Mar 18, 2015 12:50 PM
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Bruce Walter
Keller Williams Realty Lafayette/West Lafayette, Indiana - West Lafayette, IN

Well since there are no takers yet, perhaps the question needs to be re-phrased:

How many real estate professionals who were already dating or married had an affair with a client?

Mar 18, 2015 11:59 AM
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David Alan Baker | Laveen & South Phoenix Realtor
Keller Williams Realty Phoenix - Laveen, AZ
Your local Expert

Come on guys, some of you have to step up  to the plate and give us a positive on this one, really no one so far!

Mar 18, 2015 11:12 AM
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John Meussner
Mortgages in AZ, CA, CO, DE, FL, GA, IN, MD, MN, MT, NC, NJ, NV, OK, OR, PA, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI - Fair Oaks, CA
#MortgageMadeEasy Fair Oaks, CA 484-680-4852

Never been married, but I have done mortgages for a few people I've dated in the past.  If things are friendly post-breakup, I don't find it difficult to separate personal and professional, and when it comes to loans, I always keep it professional.

Mar 18, 2015 07:36 AM
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Chris Webb
Nova Home Loans - Tucson, AZ
Tucson's Social Media Expert

I have not either, I am sure some people out there will answer yes. I am curious to hear their story. 

Mar 18, 2015 02:29 AM
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Russ Ravary ~ Metro Detroit Realtor call (248) 310-6239
Real Estate One - Commerce, MI
Michigan homes for sale ~ yesmyrealtor@gmail.com

I have not...but I think there could be long term romantic relationship with a past client 

Mar 17, 2015 09:33 PM
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Dipti Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
On a team with Praful Thakkar

Not me!

Jul 29, 2018 11:24 PM
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Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Not me!

Mar 31, 2018 10:31 PM
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Ajay Pandya
e-Merge Real Estate Unlimited - Columbus, OH
Realtor Ajay Pandya

Not me... lol!

Mar 10, 2018 06:22 PM
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Hella Mitschke Rothwell
(831) 626-4000 - Honolulu, HI
Hawaii & California Real Estate Broker

I've seen agents flirt to get the business, but let's face it, most agents I know are settled in their personal life.

Jul 23, 2017 08:02 AM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

Not us

Jul 23, 2017 06:10 AM
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Jane Kalinowsky
Pantanella & Partners - Redondo Beach, CA
3rd Generation REALTOR® SRES®, CCS® (Luxury)

Kristen Correa, I just laugh with comments I hear in this career and walk away. None of my business. No need to judge anyone or how they do business. I have enough to worry about on my end. Babysitiing my clients is sometimes a full time job, but my #1 priorty is having a smooth transaction on my end. I love what I do and I make it look easy for all my clients. 

Mar 19, 2015 09:26 AM
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Vern Eaton
Askov, MN
Realtor 651-674-7449

I have been hit on before.

Mar 19, 2015 05:33 AM
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Jill Murty, Realtor - Orange County, CA
Movoto - Laguna Niguel, CA

Jane Kalinowsky - The meeting was a number of years ago.

The son did sound wonderful, which for me is a Mr. Responsible with solid values and a great sense of humor.  

The parents were delightful and funny and certainly made terrific in-laws for their future daughter-in-law.

Mar 19, 2015 02:41 AM
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Kevin J. May
Florida Supreme Realty - Hobe Sound, FL
Serving the Treasure & Paradise Coasts of Florida

The thought never entered my mind although I have seen the dating side ruin a lot of marriages. I keep looking over the fence, comparing and wondering what they're seeing. The grass is always greener right where I am.  

Mar 18, 2015 11:47 PM
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Kristen Correa, Broker
Kristen Correa Real Estate & Reedy Creek Realty Services - Keller, TX
I love coffee & real estate. I am out of coffee!

Jane. It's all fun and games 'til your follow up comment: "I attended an open house and overheard an agent telling another agent what her "duties" were on the team." If you are referring to possibly witnessing what could be trafficking or solicitation, just to be safe, I would actually report that pronto. And I'm not talking about to the California Realtor board. Not cool.

Mar 18, 2015 11:29 PM
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Kristen Correa, Broker
Kristen Correa Real Estate & Reedy Creek Realty Services - Keller, TX
I love coffee & real estate. I am out of coffee!

OK. FUN! Agree. No. Never dated, flirted with or married a client. Certainly laughed at a few who tried who were 80 with their golden anniversary wife by their side laughing about it, too. Usually Latin, what's up with that? But as a teenager I worked for a Christian camp. We were 17 and hot and there was a strict no dating camp instructors or attendees policy. "WHATEVER!" I can't count using all my fingers and all my toes all the successful young marriages and children born there. And I need zero digits to count the divorces or prayer requests for cheaters. So there. In my best teenager I told ya so voice.

Mar 18, 2015 11:19 PM
Rainmaker
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Frank Rubi
Frank Rubi Real Estate, LLC - Metairie, LA
FrankRubiRealEstate.com

In the real estate business 29 years and married 22 years. I honestly can't remember if I did or didn't. I don't think so. 

Mar 18, 2015 10:41 PM
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Rob D. Shepherd
RETIRED - Florence, OR
RETIRED

No, but AFTER closing escrow it might be possible if the interest is mutual. NOT BEFORE, business is business.

Mar 18, 2015 10:24 PM
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Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert
Zion Realty - Gilbert, AZ
Broker/Owner of Zion Realty ZionRealtyAZ.com

My husband was a personal trainer that I hired at the beginning of 2004 to train me to run my first marathon. We've been married for 8 years next month. So technically I was the client in that scenario. He's been the best person I've ever hired! 

Mar 18, 2015 10:20 PM
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Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

This is a most interesting question - real estate with a juicy spin - kudos. I have a cousin that met her husband just this way, when she was in her 20's, a long time ago.

Mar 18, 2015 10:13 PM
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Jon Quist
REALTY EXECUTIVES ARIZONA TERRITORY - Tucson, AZ
Tucson's BUYERS ONLY Realtor since 1996

I've found homes for at least two ladies I've dated. So that worked out.

Mar 18, 2015 04:01 PM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

No one willing to admit it ... David Baker Realtor - Laveen Homes for sale (LOL)!

Mar 18, 2015 11:45 AM